Growing Sometimes Hurts
Ernest Holmes wrote,“Many people naturally ask, ‘if God is good, if God is love, if God is peace why all this confusion?’Don’t you think that even God could not have done it any other way? Can’t you see even the Divine Will, in ordaining man’s destiny was compelled to let man work out his own future?” So, in the end it comes down to you and me and the choices we make. Some of us stay in bad relationships, jobs we hate and other unpleasant situations because we are comfortable. If we want to grow spiritually we need to do more. As Michael Singer reminds us, “One of the requirements for true spiritual growth and deep personal transformation is coming to peace with pain.” We have to be willing to move beyond what keeps us comfortable.
Ram Das suffered a stroke that disabled him. It also shattered his self-image of being a helper not one who is being helped. In his book, Still Here he writes about the difference between curing and healing. Healing does not mean going back to the way things were. “It means allowing what is to move us closer to God.” The late Reverend Peggy Bassett suffered from Lou Gehrig disease. She requested people not to pray for her to be cured. Her entire adult life she prayed for a closer walk with God, which she was often too busy to take. Now she was taking that closer walk. In illness she found a blessing along with the pain.
None of us is going to live a challenge free life. We can let challenges defeat us or bring out the strength that lurks within all of us. We can choose victimhood or victory. As Mary Tyler Moore once said, “You can’t be brave if you’ve only had wonderful things happen to you.”