Us vs. Us


Rumi the Sufi mystic wrote, “Out beyond ideas of wrong doing and right doing there is a field, and I’ll meet you there.” When we release idea of right and wrong, yours and mine, at the deepest level we are one.  Christine Ammerman says that our ego is programmed to compare and contrast. We say, “I am this, I am not this,” which leads to separation. She refers to that as, “otherizing.”

Recently I read a story about a woman whose son was killed. She entered a restorative justice program and met with her son’s murderer. Initially he didn’t say much but as she spoke about the pain of losing her only child he began to feel the pain he had caused. Eventually she held her hand out to him and he put his head down and wept. They had made a connection. They saw each other’s humanity. Thankfully most of us will never be in such a difficult situation, but if this grieving mother could move beyond separation you and I can see our connection to the people in our lives that may be annoying and even hurtful. Some of our best teachers are the biggest pains in our lives. Ernest Holmes reminds us, “The world of multiplicity is deeply rooted in a universe of unity.” From the one come many, so in a sense when we separate from someone we are separating from our self.

Rabbi Harold Kushner tells us that the question is not “where is God” but rather “when is God?”  Meeting God is not a matter of being in the right place but doing the right thing. Rabbi Kushner says that God comes into our lives when we do the right thing, when we are truly human.

Pastor Martin Niemoller who was arrested and tortured by the Nazis put it so beautifully and strongly when he wrote,

“When they came for the communists, I remained silent. I was not a communist.

When they locked up the social democrats, I remained silent. I was not a social democrat.

When they came for the trade unionists, I did not speak out. I was not a trade unionist.

When they came for the Jews, I remained silent. I wasn’t a Jew.

When they came for me, There was no one left to speak out.” 




About revrgfox

Rev. Ron Fox serves as the minister of the Center for Spiritual Living-Space Coast in Rockledge, Florida. Prior to serving in Florida, he was the minister of the Spiritual Enrichment Center in Peoria, Arizona; he has also served in Auburn and Seal Beach, California. Rev. Ron has served as an Ecclesiastical Representative, Chair of the Asilomar Planning Committee, and Chair of the UCSL Awards Committee. He is a gifted speaker and a published writer, and his inspirational style is coupled with a keen sense of humor, making him a favorite with audiences everywhere he has spoken. Rev. Ron and his wife Becky, a UCSL Practitioner, graphic designer and artist, reside in Merritt Island, Florida.

Posted on November 7, 2013, in Inspirational and tagged , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.

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